Monday, May 15, 2017

Does your pet know that you’re moving?

Have you ever noticed that when you are packing to leave you have that feeling of “I think my pet knows I’m going somewhere.” Think about it – if you only bring out your suitcases/duffle or weekend bags etc when you leave for a trip – of course your pets are going to know you’re leaving. Does your dog or cat hop into your suitcase every time you pull it out to start packing? While it’s a great photo opp and it’s cute to think they’re “helping”, they don’t know where you’re going and why. In this case of a vacation – the pet is left at home but you come back.

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Now let me give you this scenario..

You are talking about moving. It doesn’t matter if it’s across town or across country, you are picking up everything and moving. As soon as you begin to even think about the process – your pets will pick up on your intent. In addition to talking about moving – you are of course, thinking about it. You visualize where you are going and what everything is going to look like. There’s just one small problem…

You never told your pets about the move or the intention of going anywhere.

If your pets don’t know (or don’t think they are included) about the move – then you’ll begin to see erratic behaviors. They’ll hide, they won’t act like themselves or they just seem like they are nervous. Here’s an example. Recently, I was speaking with a client who has two cats. She asked me about the one’s erratic behavior. He was racing around the house (more so than normal) and wasn’t finishing his food. My client told me she had spoken with a real estate agent that week about moving out from her current house. When I spoke to the cat in question, he felt he would be left behind (which is something of course my client would never do!). I told my client to tell him why the move was necessary and yes - he, along with the other kitty would absolutely be coming with her to the new place. He has since returned to his normal playful self of chasing his mouse toys and unceremoniously pouncing on his sister.

Cats especially tend to lay down energetic “anchors” in their territory. When they are uprooted without understanding why – you may see behaviors like eliminating outside of the litter box, or being “standoffish” when you go to give them attention.

Remember, our pets are thinking, feeling, sentient beings who understand us on a much deeper level than most people give them credit for. When you not only talk to your animal companions, but are completely honest with them in what you are talking about – they truly get it. When you communicate with your pets on this level – you will have a happier, less destructive and even stressed out pet.

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(Photo courtesy of Patty Hankins of Beautiful Flowers Pictures - Kitty Pixel is posted with permission)

Monday, April 17, 2017

Be Genuine and Authentic - even with your pets

“A dog can tell when a person is lying” is the phrase. That is true to a point. An animal companion can tell when you are not being genuine. What do I mean by that? You need to be genuine with who you are as well as being honest and authentic in how you feel about what you are saying. When what is coming out of your mouth is not matching with what/who you are on the inside, your pets can tell and they have a problem with this (kids can tell this as well). If you don’t even believe what you are saying, how do you expect your pets to believe you? Have any of you ever noticed that your pet may not want to deal with you if you’re not telling the truth or at the very least dealing with it? They will either get away from you, do something that is aggressive (growl, hiss, scratch, peck) or become destructive to the furnishings in the house.

If something has changed in the house or with you, the best thing you can do to help resolve these issues (if you notice your pet has become aggressive or destructive) is to be honest and talk to them and tell them what is going on – just as if you were talking with your best friend. Our animal companions understand our intent, our tone and our overall demeanor. Has there been a big change at home? Is something throwing you off and have you emotionally unsettled? If something has - you can talk to your pet about it, since they will get it once you admit to them that something is wrong.

I should also mention that not every instance of destructive behavior or aggression is necessarily linked to the owner not being authentic. If these behaviors have appeared “out of nowhere” or have been there and are getting progressively worse, there can be a much deeper (and varied) cause.

Don’t believe me? TRY IT and see what happens! E-mail Me! I’d love to hear from you when you do!

Wednesday, February 22, 2017

Moving Beyond the Breed - Understanding is Everything

Recently, I had the distinct honor and privilege to have a communication consultation with a colleague who had just adopted a Shar Pei. My colleague and her spouse are experienced pet owners and they wanted me to check in with the new furbaby to check on his background. He had a lot to say.

He was placed in the rescue system since he was 9 months old (he is now 2 years old) from his breeder because, as he saw it he wasn’t desirable out of his litter. He was rescued by another rescue organization and was adopted out to his first family who unfortunately, were not experienced dog owners. They called the rescue constantly asking for advice, and ultimately returned this pup because he was “aggressive”. From this dog’s point of view - he wants to learn and his first family didn’t understand him - at all. He was confused in terms of what his first family was asking of him. So, he didn’t understand and would wind up not doing as he was asked because they weren’t asking in a way that he could understand. So, his family spent more time and energy being in distress. Plus, Shar Pei’s snort when they breathe - so the former owners could have misconstrued that as a growl.

This dog is one of the sweetest, kindest beings I have ever had the pleasure to meet. He went on to tell me that while he will not start a fight, he will finish it if he must.

When this pup came to my colleague, he knew that these folks knew what they were doing and he was so much more comfortable with them. He knew he was home. They know how to guide and teach him about the world around him (his formative years were spent in a shelter, so he’s got some catching up to do). They also know and understand how to train a potentially “stubborn” dog with positive reinforcement and solid leadership.

Shar Peis tend to have the reputation of being a steadfast guard dog. Which they are - they are fiercely loyal to their people. This is their natural instinct. This reputation is also misunderstood and translated into being “aggressive” or “mean”. In the hands of an owner who is fully present and understanding of what they have, a natural guard dog can be socialized successfully and not only be a good canine citizen, but an active member of their community.

When you adopt a pet, understand what you are getting into. If you are rescuing a pure breed, do your research on what their natural instincts are. If you adopt a mixed breed - pay attention and be present to what the dog does naturally. Ask yourself what you can do to help nurture those instincts. And don’t get caught up in the idea of a specific dog breed. As an example, the majority of Pit Bulls are sweethearts, not every Labrador Retriever likes to swim, and German Shepherds may take a lot more work than you might think.

Understanding all aspects in all things, goes a long, long way. If you have adopted a pet and would like to learn more about their past history contact us.

To follow the adventures of my colleague and her new pup click here.

Monday, February 13, 2017

The Things We Do for Love

Valentine’s Day will soon be upon us (or already is depending on when you are reading this). The holiday is usually marked with greeting cards, flowers, special dinners and of course - chocolate (which needs to be kept away from your animals). Some people like to give their pets special treats, food, or a new toy.

One of the best things you can do with your pet is to engage in their favorite activity, whatever that happens to be. Most dogs enjoy a longer walk in the woods with their people. If the woods or a trail isn’t feasible for where you are, then change up the route you take your pet. What matters to them is that you are with them and both of you are having fun. Activities like walks and playing games help strengthen the bond you have with your pets. For cats, playing a good game of chase nurtures their predatory instinct.

As an Animal Communicator, when I have asked a clients pet or pets what they want their owner to know is that they want their “spark to be lifted” and to have more joy and to be happy with them. They live life to the fullest and they love us unconditionally, 24/7.

What are some of the things you like to do with or for your pets to show your appreciation? I’d love to hear from you! Send an e-mail and tell me how you celebrate and appreciate your pet!

Friday, December 2, 2016

Quick Tips for Moms with Pets, and the Pets are Running the House.

Many times in my travels I speak to women who tell me about how their pets (usually their dogs) are out of control or they simply don’t listen to them. They have their hands full enough with kids in the house and keeping everything under control. They also tell me they don’t have the time or energy to do more extensive walks or do any additional training etc. Here are two quick steps to help you regain control and set boundaries for your pets so you can have a little more peace and order in the house.

First step is you need to be the leader, the one who controls the resources and enforces boundaries. Pets need boundaries to be set and enforced. In the absence of boundaries and rules, they will make things up themselves (which usually results in something of their choice being chewed up). Leadership does not mean yelling a reprimand or being abusive. Leadership is calm, focused confidence that you are running this program. All good things come from you. When you tell your pup to sit – it is in a “matter of fact” tone. A consequence to not doing an action is the pup doesn’t get the treat they want.

Which leads me to the second step – they need to work for their treat or their food. At meal time, your pup or pack should sit before the bowl touches the floor. Some people insist that their dogs wait in another room while the human family eats at the table. If they are going to go outside for a walk, have them sit first. The reward is getting to go outside. The point here is they must listen to you. If there are kids in the house – the whole family must be a united front when it comes to boundaries.

Otherwise, the pup or pack will play you off of each other.

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