Always CONSISTENTLY Enforce Your Boundaries

In the last blog, I talked about Leadership and how it does not equal dominance. Leadership also means being consistent and having boundaries. One of the top reasons a pet will become destructive or “pushy” is because there may not be proper boundaries in place. Or if there are boundaries, enforcing them is not consistent.

Setting a boundary doesn’t have to be draconian. It’s as simple as having your dog sit before they get a treat, and they get a treat on your terms. One thing that I had incorporated (as well as a few others I know) is that when I was out for a walk with my dog, and we came to a street corner, the dog needed to sit until I said it was ok to cross the street. In a suburban or country area where there isn’t a lot of traffic, that may not seem to be a big deal. But, if you live in a heavy populated city (like New York or Washington D.C.) this particular command and boundary is critical!

Boundaries help keep chaos to a minimum in the house. If there are multiple people living in the house - then everyone needs to be on board and enforce the boundaries in the same or similar way. You know what happens when boundaries are not consistently enforced by everyone in the house? The pet will play you. Don’t believe me? How about this situation: Person A gives in every time the dog (or cat) looks cute and gives them a treat, while Person B only gives treats when the pet has worked for it. Does this sound familiar?

The above is just one example. Other boundaries include: going outside for elimination, chewing on the proper toys (instead of furniture), listening to commands.

Are there any unique boundaries you have set for your pet? How do you enforce them? I’d love to hear from you!

 

Yes, Your Dog or Cat is Still a Predator

Some people don’t realize that their dogs (and cats as well) are still predators. Their eyes are set in front of their heads so they can see and focus directly in front of them. Prey animals by comparison, have eyes set to the sides of their heads so they can see what is around their sides and towards the back. Birds are an exception to this – I might address that in a future blog post.

Being a “predator” means that an animal naturally preys on other animals. While they are far removed from their wild cousins, the instinct is still there. Some of you may have a pet that has a knack for going after the local rodents or insects. In my own experience, I had one dog who managed to kill 5 groundhogs in two weeks. She was methodical and quick. She also enjoyed eating them (which made giving her a bath quite the undertaking..)

In addition to the natural prey drive that most dogs and cats have – they also have the gift of sharp teeth and claws. If they are cornered, or forced into a situation they don’t want to be in – the person doing the forcing can get hurt. Think about if a child is insistent on chasing or approaching a pet and there’s no way out for the pet? The child might very well get bitten or scratched. Think about the times an older teen or adult might rough house with the pet or hold them down and the pet vehemently objects? Again, the person doing the coercion is the one who may get hurt.

There are times when we have no choice but to force our predator pets to do something they don’t want to do. Like taking medication or going to the vet. Their flight or fight response will still kick in and they will still try to avoid you by any means necessary. The only thing we can do is to remain as focused, calm and as confident as possible while we gather them up to be crated, given meds or treated for something (like getting something out of their mouths).